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Do Not Marry for Beauty, Honor, or Money • The Daily Lesson from Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a

Do Not Marry for Beauty, Honor, or Money • The Daily Lesson from Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a

Here is a summary of the topics from the daily lesson as delivered by our teacher Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a – yesterday after the Maariv prayer on Sunday night, the 10th of Kislev 5786, Parshat Vayishlach:

1. At the end of Vayishlach, it is written about Basmat who offered incense. Indeed, it is written that his sins were forgiven, whereas about Ishmael it is written that she was wicked. The answer is why do people marry. If they marry for money, for honor.
2. As Rabbi Wolbe told me, it does not matter if the woman is maimed or mute, there is no problem with this.
3. Baruch Hashem, they say if she burned his food, he can divorce her, and Rabbi Akiva says even if he found one more beautiful than her. The explanation is that if he is willing to divorce his wife because she burned his food or because there is a more beautiful woman, it is better that he divorces.
4. Esau made the wedding so that Ishmael would kill Isaac and then "the days of mourning for my father will be near, and I will kill my brother Jacob" would be fulfilled.
5. The Jews are the most dangerous nation in the world. They told Cyrus if the city of Jerusalem is built, know that you have lost your kingdom. It is the most rebellious city in the world.
6. The secret of 5728 is the holy names – 184 plus 144 equals 5728. In that year, 5728, the Western Wall was liberated.
7. The woman is with wisdom, and the man is with understanding.
8. As Rabbi Gershon Edelstein said, with the wisdom of the men, they made the calf. Because the men cut the nose rings and earrings.
With the ear. Therefore, they received Rosh Chodesh.
9. The Heichal HaBeracha writes that Esau was a thousand times more than Jacob. He just needed to merit to nullify himself to Jacob. Like Ahithophel, who was an angel from the Nephilim but opposed the tzaddik and lost everything.
10. During the Six-Day War, we shouted in the field, the police came. So we went to Ponevezh, prayed there, and at seven in the morning, they announced that all the MiGs were destroyed. One must know all the miracles. Rav Shach said to leave the land, Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky said to stay, so I left for Jerusalem.
11. The Rebbe says one must know when to sleep. David did not sleep or eat because he was given 70 years, and therefore he utilized every moment.
12. Everyone should study on Tuesday evening about the blessings. All the girls should say Tikkun Chatzot until next Sunday, when it will be Chanukah, for eight days they will say a short Chatzot. And they will study the Rashi of Vayishlach, Vayetze, Toldot. Whoever does not have a yeshiva and can study until the morning, it is the best.