There is great importance to the bond between the mother and the child, a bond that grows and strengthens throughout the nine months of pregnancy and the three years of nursing; therefore, it is important to fulfill the words of the verse - "And from Hashem (God) comes a wise wife" (Proverbs 19:14)

Monday, 15th of Elul 5785 - The Daily Chizuk (spiritual strengthening) from the Gaon and Tzaddik, Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a (may he live long and good days)

It is written, "And from Hashem comes a wise wife" (Proverbs 19:14), and "Who led me in the path of truth" (Genesis 24:48) - a person needs to marry a wise woman, a sharp-minded woman, then their child will also turn out sharp-minded.

Because during the first three years of a child's life, everything he receives comes entirely from the mother. During the first three years of the child's life, he nurses from the mother, and for the nine months before that, he was within her—therefore, his entire intellect comes only from the mother, his entire intellect.

Now they also say to take iron; they have announced that from the age of 4 months until a year and a half, one should give the child 2 drops of iron every day so that the intellect will be strong.

Today, 50% of children do not comprehend, they do not speak, and people don't know anything. It is written there in the book "Meisharim Magid" (1) that he arrived in Sri Lanka as a mashgiach (kosher supervisor), and he saw that everyone had crooked hands and crooked legs—all of this is because of pegamei habris (blemishes of the covenant/sexual impurity).

A person does not realize that he needs to bring a child into the world in holiness, in the highest level of holiness possible. Then the child will not come out with a crooked hand or leg, nor with half an eye or half an ear.

A person must know that the first three years are entirely from the mother; the entire intellect is from the mother. The mother needs to nurse him, and it is the mother's milk that builds the intellect. During the first three years, every bit of intellect the child possesses is entirely from the mother—if the mother is sharp-minded, then the child will also be sharp-minded.

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1. "Meisharim Magid" was authored by Rabbi Yitzchak Zvi Bernfeld (5677–5758; 1917–1998), one of the rabbis of the Chug Chasam Sofer in Bnei Brak. The book was printed in Bnei Brak in two volumes between the years 5734–5741 (1974–1981), and is organized according to the weekly Torah portions and the Prophets/Writings as revelations and insights attributed to "The Magid" (heavenly messenger).