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How Will I Find the Shidduch (Marriage Match) in the Most Impure City in the

World? • The Daily Lesson from the Gaon and Tzaddik Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a

Nov 22, 2024•עורך ראשי
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How Will I Find the Shidduch (Marriage Match) in the Most Impure City in the

Before you is a summary of topics from the daily lesson as delivered by our teacher, the Rav, Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a – yesterday after the Maariv (evening) prayer, Thursday night, the eve of the 21st of MarCheshvan, Parshat Toldot:

Everyone needs to learn with his wife every day; Rabbi Akiva Eiger used to learn Mesillas Yesharim (The Path of the Just) with his wife, and Rabbi Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld also learned with his wife every day. One must break the Xiaomi and the smartphones; whoever breaks [them] can revive the dead. Lengthen the skirts; in this merit, the war will stop. A girl has a mind a million times greater than a man; every girl should study for bagruyot (matriculation exams) and be a teacher and a principal and open a thousand seminars (girls' schools) – every seminar with a thousand girls, that's a million girls doing teshuvah (repentance). Once there was "Bein HaZmanim" (inter-session break) because the Kollel (institute for advanced Torah study) was far away and they would return home only once in a while... now the Kollel is close, there is no need for "Bein HaZmanim," one must learn all the time.

Eliezer said, "How will I find the shidduch (marriage match) for Yitzchak (Isaac) in the most impure city in the world?" He said, "I will see a woman who offers me to drink," and she offered him twice. Always when guests arrive, one must give more, because perhaps he is embarrassed to take. And when the water rose toward her, he understood that this was the shidduch. Once all the girls – from Tzippori – would fly in the air to the Beis HaMikdash (Holy Temple). But then Eliezer saw "v'chada al shichma" (and her pitcher on her shoulder) – the first letters of which form the name Esau. And he said, "I will not give such a shidduch to Yitzchak." But then Rabbi Naftali of Ropshitz had a grandson – Rabbi Meir of Dzikov – and he showed him that "macharish" (silent/holding his peace) has the same Gematria (numerical value) as Yaakov (Jacob) and Esau combined. This shows that Esau is only the klipah (husk) of Yaakov, and from Yitzchak came Yaakov, and in the merit of Yitzchak, there will be the Geulah (Redemption) in its completeness, speedily in our days, Amen!

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