Powerful: Shalom Bayis — The Daily Chizuk from Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a

The Daily Chizuk from our teacher, the holy Tzaddik, Rav Eliezer Berland shlit"a – "Many daughters have done valiantly, but you excel them all."

Tuesday, 1st of Sivan 5782 – "Always tell your wife 'my sister,' then there will never be a divorce," these are his holy words:

"Say, I pray you, that you are my sister" (Genesis 12:13), Rabbi Eliezer began and said (Zohar, page 49), say that you are my sister.

The whole point is to say to your wife 'my sister'; a person comes into the world to say 'my sister' to his wife; he must say to her 'my sister'.

Say to her my sister, do not say to her stupid. You must say to her my sister, you must say to her my dear, "My sister, my bride, my dove, my undefiled" (Song of Songs 5:2), as it is written in the Song of Songs.

Always tell your wife 'my sister,' then there will never be a divorce - if a person knows that he cannot tell his wife she is wise, he should not get married; he should sit quietly and not cause her pain.

Here we learned that whoever marries a woman and cannot say to her you are my sister, my sister. He cannot sweeten her, tell her that she is wise, quick, always tell the woman you are the wisest, the quickest, you are the most...

Do not tell her you don't cook, you don't know how to cook - she breaks a plate? Let the plate break, may it always be a 'mazal tov' when a plate breaks!

A person doesn't know how to tell his wife, you are the wisest, you are the dearest, my dear, as it is written "My sister, my bride, my dove, my undefiled."

"Many daughters have done valiantly, but you excel them all" (Proverbs 31:29), about whom was this written? We sing this after Ma'ariv on Shabbat nights always. Whoever does not know how to say this should not get married - all of this is written in the Zohar on page 49.

A person must tell his wife you are the best woman, you are the most wonderful woman, you are the most successful woman, you are the most...

Do not say my mother cooked better and my sister cooks better, say the opposite - you are the best at cooking, you are the best chef, there is no chef like you, you are the head of the chefs, you excel all the daughters, and you excel them all.

It is simple, this thing is, it teaches, I say this to all the grooms.

One hears of someone getting divorced, so after he has already humiliated her for two years, tells her you are stupid and so on, he doesn't even want to bring her a glass of water.

After that she screams, she screams and he tells everyone, my wife screamed at me - but you screamed at her a thousand times and she held back, said it doesn't matter.

A person doesn't understand, he doesn't know that he must always tell her, "Many daughters have done valiantly, but you excel them all." Always tell her that all other women are like monkeys, tell her 300 times you are the only woman in the world, bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh.

He always runs to his mother, what, you will manage alone, I need to help my mother. You are a capable woman, a good woman, you know how to manage, my mother is miserable. My mother needs help, she has 10 children and she needs his help.

So this is the opposite of the Torah, the Torah says: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife," you cannot say my mother. He must say to her, he must speak "Love your neighbor as yourself" (Genesis Rabbah, Parsha 24, Siman 7), you are bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh. You are the most successful woman, you are the only woman in the world.

What pearls, what words, you are bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh, where is there such a thing? You are part of my flesh, you are part of my bones.

You are part of me, what is the meaning? We are the most successful couple!