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The Role and Virtue of the Woman of Valor - Parshat Emor by the Esteemed Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a

The Role and Virtue of the Woman of Valor - Parshat Emor by the Esteemed Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a

"Speak and say, to warn the great about the small" (Rashi 21:1) - Parshat Emor by the Esteemed Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a

"A woman who fears Hashem, she shall be praised" - The emunah (faith) of the woman is greater than that of the man

The woman possesses awe, the woman fears more than the man, because the women were not involved in the sin of the Golden Calf, the women were not involved in the sin of the spies. For the moment the women received the Ten Commandments, the moment they accepted upon themselves the yoke of Torah and mitzvot, nothing in the world could sway them, nothing could divert them, no argument, no persuasion, because the emunah (faith) of the woman is much stronger than that of the man. This is the nature of the woman, if she heard a word of Torah, nothing in the world could sway her from it.

When they came to the women (to take their earrings for the Golden Calf), every husband tried to convince his wife, what? You don't believe in Aaron the Priest, you have no emunah in tzaddikim? Aaron the Priest said to make a calf, and the women replied: What do you mean he said to make a calf? What is this, Aaron is changing the Ten Commandments? The holy Zohar says "and they stripped the people" – what does the term 'and they stripped' mean? Rather, the Zohar explains that the women did not remove their earrings in any way! They held onto their ears and pressed their hands to their ears, so it is written "and they stripped" like "removing mountains, breaking rocks", they simply took it by force, "they broke and shattered their ears" as the Zohar states - because when the husbands got some madness, God forbid, and wanted to make a calf, then Hashem have mercy, but the women remained in their innocence, in their purity, in their modesty, and in their pure emunah, and nothing moved them, nothing in the world!

The Palaces of the Righteous Women

The holy Zohar says that there are palaces in heaven, palaces that the righteous women merit, there is a palace called Batya daughter of Pharaoh, thousands of women innovate Torah insights there every day. There are thousands of women who left their homes, left wealth, left their careers. Batya was a king's daughter and left everything to be a simple Jewess. So every woman who could have been a great manager and left everything to be at home, to raise children to study Torah and sends her husband to learn Torah, and says Tehillim and goes to the Kotel, then she ascends to such levels that no other woman can reach, and then she merits the levels of Batya daughter of Pharaoh who ascended with her body to Gan Eden.

Women are like an altar, for indeed they sacrifice themselves to Hashem

Women sacrifice themselves, they receive the children, care for ten children. The mothers do everything, they devote themselves to the children, feed them, give them drink, bathe them, do it with self-sacrifice, sacrifice themselves to Hashem, so they can become prophetesses. Like Deborah the prophetess, like Miriam the prophetess.

What is a home? A home is a sanctuary, a sanctuary is an acronym for bed, table, chair, lamp. The woman cleans the house, educates the children, in the house there are Torah books because the children learn Torah. The husband can sit and learn Torah, while the woman washes dishes and lights candles, cooks and sets the table, then she builds the sanctuary, if she does her work, her mission she can receive prophecy from it.

A woman is exempt from learning Gemara but she is not exempt from being attached to Hashem, from this she is not exempt, she can be attached to Hashem when she cleans the house, cooks, washes dishes. As it is told about the wife of Rabbi Yitzchak of Drohobych, the mother of Rabbi Michel of Zlotshov, that in the middle of sweeping the house, she said Holy, Holy, Holy, her husband Rabbi Yitzchak asked her 'why are you saying Holy, Holy, Holy?' She answered and said to him 'I hear the song of the angels, the angels are now saying kedushah'.

Rabbi Moshe Leib of Sassov became blind, they asked him why did you become blind? He told them because of my wife I became blind... everything she says 'for the honor of Shabbat, for the honor of Shabbat'. Kneading the dough and cooking, and saying for the honor of Shabbat, and from every 'for the honor of Shabbat' she says an angel is created, from every word for the honor of Shabbat angels are created, until the whole house became a fiery flame, the whole house was filled with angels until they blinded my eyes from the abundance of light. If the woman does what she needs to in her matters, fulfills her role with faithfulness, with simcha (joy), with awe and love, for the sake of Hashem, then from the simplest things she can receive prophecy."

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