Why Do We Get Married?

The Daily Chizuk from our teacher, the Gaon and Tzaddik, Rav Eliezer Berland shlit"a – "We marry to bring Mashiach ben David"

Wednesday, 30 Sivan 5782 – "A person should always dwell in the place of his Rebbe," these are his holy words:

If it is not in the mikvah (before the chuppah), with kashrut, and with the intention of "L'Shem Yichud" (for the sake of unifying the Holy One, Blessed be He, and His Shechinah), one should first go to the Western Wall and pray to Hashem that only holy souls will come from this, souls of Bnei Torah - souls of servants of Hashem.

As Reb Noson of Breslov says (that one marries) so that Mashiach ben David will emerge from them.

Why does one get married? Reb Noson asks: Why does a person get married? Does he marry for the sake of lust? It would be better if they did not have a wedding!! It is better that he does not marry, that he should sit in some corner!!

It is brought in the Ohr HaChaim that couples do not know why they are getting married at all. Reb Noson cries out bitterly about this - how are you getting married at all?

Now (at the time of giving the shiur) it is Sefirat HaOmer, we do not marry, it is a miracle - so Reb Noson says, why does one get married? For what purpose?

What is this, Avimelech? For the sake of lust? A person thinks that since he already has a wife (he is married), then the lust is permitted? Then a child with a defect will be born!

People do not understand why children are born with defects; all this lust is a punishment (for man), the lust is a lust of the eyes.

After the sin of Adam HaRishon, we fell into this lust. If not for the sin of Adam HaRishon, this lust would not exist at all. Adam HaRishon wanted there to be free choice, so he did everything intentionally.

Avraham also went down to Egypt; the Ramban says that he committed a great sin, but why did he go down? In order to subdue this impurity!

Why live near the tzaddik?

"And Rabbi Chiya bar Ami said in the name of Ulla: A person should always dwell in the place of his Rebbe" (Berachot 8a), one is obligated to dwell in the place of his Rebbe - the moment he lives in the place of his Rebbe, he has fear of Heaven and he will not marry just anyone he pleases.

Shlomo became king over the entire world, emperor over the entire world; the Queen of Sheba arrived because every king brought his daughter and forced him to marry.

Shlomo did not want to; he wanted to be strong. "And it came to pass when Shlomo was old, that his wives turned away his heart" (Melachim I 11:4) - because they all worshipped idols.

When Shlomo married them, they agreed not to worship idols, but after a week, after a month, after a year, they were already worshipping idols. He was king for 40 years, so for 40 years they worshipped idols.