The Daily Chizuk from The Rav, the holy Gaon HaTzaddik Rabbi Eliezer Berland shlit"a — “We Get Married to Bring Melech HaMoshiach”

Wednesday, 30 Sivan 5782 — “A person should always live in the place of his Rav.” These are his holy words:

If it isn’t done with immersion in the mikveh (before the chuppah), with proper kashrus, and with a leshem yichud, then first they go to the Kosel and pray to Hashem that only holy souls should come from this—souls of bnei Torah, souls of those who truly serve Hashem.

Just as Rabbi Nosson of Breslov says: we get married so that Moshiach ben David will come forth from us.

Why do we get married? Rabbi Nosson asks: Why does a person marry? Is it for desire? If so, it would be better not to make a wedding at all! Better that he shouldn’t marry—let him sit somewhere in a corner!

In the Or HaChaim it is brought that couples don’t even know why they are getting married in the first place. Rabbi Nosson cries out bitterly about this: How can you get married at all?

Now (at the time this shiur was given) it is Sefiras HaOmer; we don’t get married—it’s a miracle. So Rabbi Nosson says: Why do we get married? For what purpose?

What about Avimelech? Is it for desire? A person thinks that once he already has a wife (he is married), then desire is “permitted”? Then a child will be born with a blemish!

People don’t understand why children are born with blemishes. All desire is a punishment (for a person). Desire is a craving of the eyes.

After the sin of Adam HaRishon, we fell into this desire. If Adam HaRishon had not sinned, this desire would not exist at all. Adam HaRishon wanted there to be free choice, so he did everything intentionally.

Avraham also went down to Egypt. The Ramban says he committed a great sin—but why did he go down? In order to subdue that impurity!

Why Do We Live Near the Tzaddik?

“Rabbi Chiya bar Ami said in the name of Ulla: A person should always live in the place of his Rav” (Berachos 8a). A person must live in the place of his Rav—because the moment he lives where his Rav is, he has yiras Shamayim, and he won’t marry whoever he feels like.

Shlomo became king over the entire world—an emperor over the whole world. The Queen of Sheba came, because every king brought his daughter and pressured him to marry her.

Shlomo didn’t want to; he wanted to be strong. “And it was, in the time of Shlomo’s old age, that his wives turned his heart” (I Kings 11:4)—because they all served idolatry.

When Shlomo married them, they agreed not to serve idolatry. But after a week, after a month, after a year—they were already serving idolatry. He reigned for forty years, so for forty years they served idolatry.